She is WAY over-dressed
She has swagger
She tells loud stories and funny jokes and tries not to let anyone around her feel uncomfortable
If you make eye contact with her she does not break it, in fact she smiles back at you
If you talk to her she’s flirtatious
She owns a pair of cat-eye glasses
She has visible tattoos
She uses ambiguous pronouns to talk about her exes
She has extensive knowledge of women’s history, feminist art, and is involved with political issues of all sorts
She looks straight but all her friends are big dykes
If she tells you she’s gay don’t question it, SHE IS!!!
Ways to get a Femme Girlfriend:
Buy her zine, follow her twitter, shop at her vintage store online or in real life, read her blog, go to the dance party she djs, just generally learn what she is into and support it.
Tell her friends you think she is hot (she is then guaranteed to know within 5mins).
Make eyes at her
Be chivalrous
Look cute
Ask her on a date
Be charming
Be interested
Be good at what you do and impress her
Compliment her
Validate her queerness, tell her you knew she wasn’t straight all along.
Be amazing in bed…be mean in bed…leave marks.
DO NOT BE INTIMIDATED. We can smell fear.
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Thank you, thank you for posting "Tell-tale Signs a Queer Femme is Queer".
Fabulous list, very affirming and funny:-)
While this is obviously specific to a certain kind of femme, I really identify with several of these points. My favorite one is, "Validate her queerness, tell her you knew she wasn’t straight all along." - that makes me weak in the knees! Slightly off topic, but I also think that queers in general, including myself, need to remember not to question people who say they're not gay/queer when we think they are, or haven't figured it out yet. It's just as bad as someone saying to a queer girl, "well, maybe you just haven't found the right man yet" - and that's just not cool.