I think I understand now why I was having such an issue with my femmeinism before. I was in the wrong career field!  And maybe this is just my own personal difficulty - I imagine some femmes could probably be garbage truck drivers and still rock their femmeininity, but I'm one of those whose environment contributes to their internal attitude and external image. Being a vet tech in scrubs every day, usually sweaty and covered in you don't even want to know what, hair a mess, no time or will to put on makeup just for the animals - it took a hit on my femme rockage!

I was unhappy in the field for other reasons as well, and finally I found a job in a completely different field. Basically I'm at a desk, in front of a computer all day, and I have to look professional. Casual business attire is the name of the game. I'm not running around sweating my arse off, and am in a field where it really does matter how I look (which also meant I had to put clear jewelry in my nostril piercing to hide it, but hey, sacrifices). This is doing wonders for my femmeininity. I wear nice clothes every day. Makeup. Hair done. Nothing extravagant mind you, but enough to make me feel quite fabulously femme. It's transferred into my non-life work as well. Jeans are still a large part of the uniform, but the tops are prettier, the shoes are prettier, the walk is sassier, and the makeup and scent are being applied more frequently. I didn't have self-confidence issues before, but now it's rockin'.

I must say, it feels good to rock the lifestyle. Now to find the perfect pair of heels...!

Latest posts by Danni St Athens

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• Reader Question: Being a Femme's Femme - July 10th, 2010
• On Being a Femme in Pursuit - June 24th, 2010