This week contributors to the anthology ‘Visible: a Femmethology’ (a two-volume look at queer femininity that will be released from Homofactus Press in March) got the devastating news that Jennifer Franet a fellow contributor had died. Jennifer died on December 25th. The news of her passing sent me, and all the other contributors reeling. Though I never knew her, I feel connected to her not only because of our shared involvement in this anthology, but also as a fellow femme.  Life is so short, so precious, and incredibly fragile.  I try to never take my partner, friends, and community for granted but it’s something that really hits home at times like this.

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April 27, 1975 ~ December 25, 2008
On the afternoon of Christmas Day, Jennifer Eve Franet was taken from this world. A graduate of UC Berkley, the mother of two children, and a friend, Jennifer saw the world without the filters that hinder so many people. She moved to Humboldt because she loved animals, plants, and all things natural, and she loved hiking on the beach, in the woods, or by a river, and growing native plants in her tiny back yard. She was also recently accepted to the graduate program at Humboldt State University. Self-described as gender-blind, she found love in the individual. The bravery that she carried within herself took her through raising a son, Zachery, 15, and a daughter, Sage, 11, mostly on her own—while still making her way through the hardships that life put in front of her.
An accomplished writer, she was recently published in the books Hitched! Wedding Stories from San Francisco; detailing her marriage to a woman, the love they shared, and the social reactions to their union and Femmethology. She was also a contributor to the Humboldt L-Word Newsletter, and had published creative non-fiction and fiction works in many places.
As a person, Jennifer was honest and dignified. A close friend to many people in the Arcata area, she spent her life living, and never allowing the struggle to get the best of her. Her small frame carried a soul that was too large for this world. The world has been made better by her being it. And through her leaving it, somehow, it will be made stronger still.

If you were to visit me, you would notice a preponderance of candles in my house. On the dining room tables, the kitchen counter, the top of the fridge, in my bedroom, on the bookshelves (ok, not a wise sounding idea, but those are ones that aren't going to get lit for a while). It's one of my most stereotypical Femme/feminine traits; I LOVE candles. Especially good smelling ones.

Well, luckily, Babeland was kind enough to give me an Afterglow Candle (by Jimmy Jane) to review.

In the little box that arrived, I got the candle (which is a really good sized candle), a GIANT box of matches (score!) and a little brush. When you light the candle, and it melts, it turns into massage oil, which feels phenomenal when poured warm onto the skin.

Brush wise, I have to say I didn't get it. I'm not sure why you're supposed to use a brush to put oil/wax onto the skin. It just didn't work for me. However, it is my cat's (Kinsey) absolute new favorite toy - even more loved then his decimated peacock feather. So it certainly has it's uses.

I got the Figleaf scent...and it was AMAZING. I lit it, and immediately, a soft but delicious smell started to fill the room. It was a little flowery, but not too much so...and it wasn't super strong, which can ruin a moment. No no - it was ideal. And mmmm.

We let the candle burn as we played, and then she poured some of the wax/oil onto my back. As she rubbed it in, the tension left me completely. It started, after 10-15 minutes to absorb into my skin, leaving my skin soft and smelling delightful. A small amount was dropped on my nightstand, but it later hardened back into wax, and was easy to get off with a finger nail.

I love this candle. So far, it's my favorite massage oil candle, and it's also a great into for people who want to try wax play, but don't want to start with "real" wax. It has a very low burning temp, making it great for anyone! Five stars, out of five!

For your very own warm, loving and caring (hey, I can anthropomorphize a candle, right?) Afterglow Candle, just click here!

-Essin' Em

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As we all know, I have a leopard print fetish. Love sac, photo albums, sheets, negligees, pillows, purse, gloves - you name it, I probably have it in leopard print. Ergo, when a certain sex toy company happened to start carrying the Liberator Ramp in LEOPARD PRINT, you can imagine the cravings I felt. Luckily, they decided to reward me (and wish me a happy birthday), and guess what arrived on my doorstep? Yeah, you got it!

So, I've never had a piece of sex toy furniture that was made specifically for sex. I mean, sure, I've re-commissioned pillows into wedges, I've used counters and couches. I even have an amazing Fascinator Throe that keeps my bed from getting wet/lubey/waxy/etc. But no "real" furniture.

Ergo, I was incredibly excited to give this a try. Even better, it showed up on my doorstep on my actual birthday...

I was demonstrating all the positions you could do with it. You can put it at the end of the bed, be bent over and fucked from behind. You can do doggy style on the bed. You can lean someone up against it, bending your legs until you're half a pretzel, and get fucked. You can lean down over it it, resting your head on the bed quite comfortable, giving you ideal g-spot or p-spot access. This is bloody brilliant.

However, I have to say that I think the most brilliant use for it is for oral sex on on a woman...I'm not sure how this works for sucking cock (of any variety), but if you're going down on a woman, and have her lie back, scootching her butt to the edge of the ramp - and BAM! Perfect position to eat some cunt. You don't have to have the same kind of neck cramps, and you have so much more easy access. Freaking genius. And as the woman on the receiving end, it feels AMAZING.

The soft, microsuede cover feels soft and gentle against your skin - no chance of rug burn here. Better yet, you can unzip it, and it is machine washable, so you can share the ramp with partners, use lubes without fear of it getting gross after time, etc. Moreover, there is an awesome cover to put on it when it's not in use, so you don't need to worry about it getting dusty.

Only problem I had with this miraculous ramp was the storage issue - it's fairly sizeable, and while it kinda sorta fits on the top shelf of my closest, it's certainly not the best solution. I've contemplated leaving it out in my living room with the rest of my leopard print items, but I can't really find a place for it. If you're living in a one bedroom apartment like me, I would think about where you might put it before you get it.

Otherwise, this is probably one of my favorite, and most useful sexuality items I've had the pleasure of review. Also, you can use it for other things, like stretching, fancy yoga poses, or as a back pillow for reading in bed. Lots of uses, lots of fun, and I bet you now want your very own Liberator Ramp (and don't worry - it comes in other colors than leopard print.

-Essin' Em

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I'm betting at least SOME of you read my original post on the Femme Spiral -- the Femme's answer to being pegged as straight women, and the ying to the Butch blue star's yang.

My former partner knew how much it meant to me to get it...but sadly, I'm broke, and can barely afford food, none the less tattoos.  She's a massage therapist, and for my Channukah present, she decided to trade massage work with her tattoo artist, but instead of inking herself more, she'll be letting me get my Femme Spiral. I met with the artist today, and will be going under the needle tomorrow. I am ridiculously excited!

Here are some concept ideas I gave to the artist for MY spiral (best thing about the spiral idea? You can do whatever you want with it; crop circles, nautiluses, DNA, etc):

Obviously, I wanted my spiral to be of the more ornate, and slightly organic type. I'm so psyched for tomorrow.

However, this concept only works if other people hop on board with me.  So I invite you all to join the Femme gang, and show your colors by getting your very own Femme Spiral on your wrist.  You'll know about the secret symbol, and can explain it to others, if you care to, and help boost our gang membership.  

Of course, I'd never suggest someone who doesn't want a tattoo go get one. But if you've been thinking about it, and wanting to, here you go. I'm putting a call out to all Femmes - design and get your own Femme Spiral tattoo!  And if you're anti-tattoo, sharpie works too.

If you *do* get one, I'd love to see pictures. I know I'll be posting mine!

-Essin' Em

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The Hitachi Magic Wand is the only vibrator you'll ever need again.

I mean, that's really the entire review of it. It is one of the top selling items at Babeland, but elsewhere as well. Pretty much every sex toy retailer sells more Hitachis than anything else. Why? Because they are freaking amazing.

Someone once asked me how I'd describe the Hitachi. If a normal orgasm is like a rainstorm, the Hitachi is a like a tsunami. If a normal orgasm is like a Hershey's kiss, a Hitachi is like Godiva. If a normal orgasm is like a shot of McCormicks, the Hitachi is Grey Goose. Get it yet?

It plugs into the wall. That's right; no batteries, no waiting for it to recharge. Super green and environmentally friendly. Plus, the Hitachi has been around for decades upon decades. As they say, if it ain't broke, then don't fix it. The Hitachi is amazing. It's wonderful. It's perfect.

I give them as presents to people. I recommend them to people. I take people to get their first vibrator, and help them get Hitachis. They are the best toys you'll ever own.

You can also use them as back massagers...I know it sounds kind of odd, but I mean, that IS what they were designed for. I have definitely used them to get the kinks out, and in this case, kink is not a synonym for orgasm.

There are also all kinds of attachments you can use (silicone, of course), for vaginal penetration, for anal penetration, for additional clitoral stimulation.

Basically, this is the most wonderful and amazing sex toy you can and will ever buy. I am not kidding. I am not guilty of hyperbole. You can use it alone, during intercourse, on a partner, with a partner. Use it for sex, use it for back massages.

Get a Hitachi Magic Wand. I cannot recommend it any higher. If I had to get rid of every single sex toy I own (and I own more than 150), and only keep one, I'd keep the Hitachi.

-Essin' Em

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I love chocolate. I love touching people. I love skin. Ergo, the Lovers Paintbox was obviously a brilliant choice for me.

Instead of playing with these with a partner/lover, I decided to get a wider range of opinions, and I took this kit with me to my birthday party. I figured that we might wind up playing a game like Truth or Dare (yes, I'm in my 20's, but it's a damn good game), and it's always good to have...options...when playing that kind of game.

Good plan. A few rounds in, I was dared to paint my name in chocolate on Sasha Sappho's cleavage. I did, in a variety of flavors and colors (cause this had three flavors/colors; dark chocolate, milk chocolate, and white chocolate). And then I was challenged to lick it off...which took freaking forever.

I've tried out a chocolate body pain before, by Shunga. It was fairly liquidy, like chocolate syrup. These chocolate paints were different - thicker, chocolatier, etc. I glanced at the brush, but honestly, it was way too big for the task at hand, so I just used my fingers. If you wanted thicker lines, it would be just fine...I've also used a variety of little make up brushes (clean, unused of course).

General consensus was that the chocolates tasted good, although they were a little too sweet. Also, no one was a very big fan of the vanilla - I thought it has a bit of a strange after taste.

All in all, it was a ton on fun, especially in a group setting, and having used chocolate body paint before, I know it's a lot of fun between just two people. However, keep in mind that if you're going to lick it off, you shouldn't use a lot, as it takes a lot of licks to get a little off. A great alternative is do your masterpiece, lick a little, and then take a fun, hot and steamy shower together.

Even better - right now, the Lovers Painbox is on sale! Even full price, you get a ton of body paint (we only used a tiny hint of it), and right now, you get a super duper deal, thanks to VibeReview.

-Essin' Em

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I’ll be honest. When it comes to office related holiday celebrations, I am the ultimate Scrooge. I don’t like the idea of forcibly using time off to celebrate something with people with whom I may or may not wish to socialize. And, I hate the idea of office gift-exchanges at these parties. You know, the one where you purchase some small, dinky gift, usually for under $10, and you may or may not play a game to receive a gift. Ugh. None of that sounds like fun to me. If I am friends or friendly with my coworkers, then I will find time to spend with them; I don’t need some lame excuse for a celebration. I don’t want to purchase some trinky little gift to hand out, when I already make/give small gifts for the people I am friends with at work. And, I know it is only $10. . . But, what a waste! I deplore the idea of wasting $10 on some worthless little item that won’t even be liked/used by the person who receives it. That $10 could be used on my laundry, groceries, towards new shoes, new sheets, or even towards a real gift. I don’t want to waste it.

But, I do like to have a good attitude and none of the above is really conducive with ‘good attitude.’

So, here is my “Down and Dirty, Super Cheap, Easy and Fast to Make, Holiday Office Party Gift.”

The Dammit Doll.

A Dammit Doll is basically some doll-like creation that your co-worker can bang/destroy/abuse as he/she/ze sees fit. Everyone needs to torture something sometimes? Right?

Now, the point here is to spend as little money as possible. So, repurpose materials around your house. Use an old (clean) T-shirt etc. etc. etc. Do not go out and spend money on this creation.

You will need:

-Some kind of fabric (hello white felt from the scrap pile)

-Embroidery thread (but you know, you could even just write the stuff on in marker)

-Needle (only if you are not using marker)

-Cording (ribbon, lace, rope, shoelaces etc.)

-marker

-scissors

-something to stuff the doll with (polyfil, dried beans, rice, stuffing from an old pillow)

-plastic bag for presentation (cute container etc.)

-paper (if you want to make a cute tag etc.)

Step 1

Use the template below. Copy the dammit doll shape onto your fabric with marker.

Step 2

Use whatever color thread you choose (marker color if you are writing this on) and split stitch (I did a how-to on split stitch here, but you can click on the 'split stitch' hyperlink for another tutorial) around the body shape

Step 3

Use another color thread (or the same one) to split stitch the face on

Step 4

I used red to satin stitch a heart on my dammit doll. But, this is totally optional. If you do not know how/do not want to satin stitch, then you could just split stitch the shape of the heart.

Step 5

Draw an oval around the dammit doll

Step 6

Cut out the dammit doll along the oval shape. Place the cut out doll on top of another piece of fabric (can be the same color or not) and cut out a second oval

Step 7

Get your ribbon/cording/shoelace

Step 8

Sew your ribbon/cording/shoelace onto one edge of the dammit doll. No one will see these stitches, so it doesn’t matter what color they are, or how nice they look. The long part of the cording should be on the front of the doll

Step 9

Pin the doll and the second piece of oval together so that the front of the doll faces inward. Make sure all of your ribbon is on the inward side as well

Step 10

Stitch around the edges of the oval. Leave a small space un-stitched so you will be able to turn your doll right-side out

Step 11

Turn your doll right-side out

Step 12

Stuff your doll

Step 13

Sew the small hole in the side of the doll shut. Yay! You have a cute, complete, super-cheap, dammit doll

Step 14

Modify this poem to suit your tastes:

Whenever things don't go so well...
And you want to hit the wall and yell...
Here's a little dammit doll
That you can't do without.
Just grasp it firmly by the legs
And find a place to slam it
And as you whack the stuffing out
Yell, "DAMMIT! DAMMIT! DAMMIT!"

Step 15

Put the dammit doll and poem in the plastic bag (container) and maybe make a little label. I sweetly asked food service for one of those clear plastic boxes. I also added pins for a "voodoo doll " effect.

Step 16

Done! A cute, sweet, thoughtful, and very cheap office party gift! Enjoy!

In case any of you fierce Femmes, or your friends and lovers, live in Colorado, I'm teaching a class on Wednesday

-Essin' Em

Strap On 101, Taught by Shanna Katz, aka Essin' Em

7pm on December 17th

Denver, Colorado

Come learn all about the joys and pleasures of strapping it on. Discuss the pros and cons of different kinds of harnesses (ever wonder what the difference is between a g-string and a dual strap?), learn how to properly insert cocks and dildos into the rings, and contemplate a plethora of positions. This class is open to singles, couples and moresomes of all sexes and genders (we'll cover pegging too, as well as using harnesses for cuckolding). Never used a harness before? That's fine - we'll start with the basics. Plus, everyone will get to try on harnesses with toys to get a feel for the different styles, as well as figure out what works best for them. Come ready to play! $10/person

To register, call (303) 733-3373.

Or show up on the 17th to:

Hysteria - www.hysteriashop.com

114 S. Broadway

Denver, CO 80209

Instructor Bio:

Shanna Katz (aka Essin' Em) is a kinky, queer, non-monogamous, feminist, politically active, sex-educator Femme, with a bit of twisted sense of humor. Her sexuality blog "Sexuality Happens" can be found at www.Essin-Em.com. She spends her time pondering sex, sexuality, the gender spectrum, non-traditional relationships, sex toys, erotic writing, queer sexuality, new definitions of feminism and more. She has Master's in Human Sexuality Education, and does work both online and face-to-face, educating people in a variety of ways about a variety of subjects. She has done trainings, workshops and written curricula for numerous universities, the Planned Parenthood Association of Bucks Country (Doylestown, PA), Passional Toys (Philadelphia, PA), and S.E.X. PhD (Denver, CO). Currently, she is a resident instructor at Hysteria in Denver.

Currently, she is a contributor to www.BestSexBloggers.com, www.FemmesGuide.com, www.LiveGirlReview.com, www.JanesGuide.com, and is working on several other projects on the side. Additionally, she's part of the advice panel at www.TheLesbianLifestyle.com. In the past, she has worked as an advice columnist and movie reviewer for www.HotMoviesForHer.com, and as a community outreach coordinator for EdenFantasys. In her free time, she's a mother to two kitties, and is a roller derby referee, which she thinks is the best sport ever invented. For more information on Shanna, go to www.ShannaKatz.com.

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I haven't blogged at the Femme's Guide in awhile and I apologize for that...life got a little too intense and the fallout from that has caused weeks to slip by unnoticed. I woke from my funk when a friend asked the other day if I was "ready for the holidays?"

Holidays?
From my fog, I repeated the question...Holidays?...and then I had that "oh shit" moment. Yeah, holidays...as in, I hadn't shopped, hadn't decorated, and hadn't planned any parties.

Now, I can honestly say that as a writer, I have often lost track of time...not quite dementia...but pretty damn close. It's just the strange reality that I live in...I'm here, I'm not; I'm me, I'm someone else for awhile (being a fictional character for awhile can be quite liberating by the way.) It can also be a marvelous escape when life is getting a little too insane and too hectic, which mine was...

So, now, I'm back and in horror realized that not only is it seven days until Yule and ten until Christmas...and I am totally out of time. Last night I cleaned, decorated, made a shopping lists (presents, grocery and spirits) until the wee hours of what is today. My teenage daughter (who is 17 and referred to on all my blogs as Beautiful Girl) was wide eyed and thrilled. She knew at some point the decorations would go up but she's also learned that the current Work-In-Progress must be completed first (it isn't but I'm hopeful to have it submitted to my editor by December 31st.) My husband doesn't understand the panic...he doesn't see the reason for all the hoopla...(he was christened "Sir Hotness" on a blog two years ago by a reader...and much to his chagrin, the name has stuck.)

So Sir Hotness and Beautiful Girl watched as a whirlwind transformed our normally cluttered living room into a magic winter wonderland.

Later, Sir Hotness asked, "Why?" as in, "Why the panic?" And I explained that we are nothing without our rituals (traditions) because they bring order, peace, and magic to our lives...and even though he understands that...he still doesn't understand my panic.

I think a lot of my angst comes from being raised by a Betty-Crocker mom, who even though it was the seventies, approached her home and family duties as if it was still 1954. She wore a frilly apron in the kitchen that coordinated with the seasons and holidays as they came and went. She cooked real food, not from a box or microwave every meal. And there is no level of household cleaning that could stand up to her level of clean so I've never bothered trying...lol...but honestly, my life and my lifestyle don't demand it; however, the holidays do. Is that insane? Try explaining it to a husband who really enjoys his laid-back wife.

Our conversation really opened my eyes to a few things...

I miss the big family get-togethers of my youth where grandparents, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, and cousins all gathered...and I try to recreate that insanity with family/friend gatherings. There is just something about having a house full of people with little in common...the catching up from year to year...the noisy chatter! I miss my cousin Mark...the first man I had ever heard called "gay" and not knowing what that meant, only that the older adults talked about him in hushed tones...and then one year another cousin explained to me what "gay" meant...and I managed to silence the table when I asked if Aunt Laura was "gay" too...I might have been young, but Aunt Laura stood out as a fairly "different" kind of girl...she was a Marine, she cussed in public...and she never married.

Isn't it funny the stuff that stands out from the past?

What we remember? What we choose to forget?

Now, it seems surreal that my oldest daughter tells her babies that they are going to grandma's house...and that is ME! I'm too young to be a matriarch...and what does that mean anyway? In part I think it means that I am the keeper of traditions...the person who reminds everyone else...of the way it used to be. I realized that I am the only living person who knows who my mother was...her family tree...her stories...I need to write things down, find old pictures, and put it together...a scrapbook for each daughter...and that seems like a very big job...not one I'll complete by this Yule...but hopefully for next Yule. But this year, I can share a story or two because it's important that my daughters and granddaughters know where the "holiday plates" and "good silver" came from (my great-grandmother's who used good china and silver for every meal)...and why I drag out the antique stuff for the holidays and no other time...maybe it's important to know that the butterscotch pie made for Christmas dinner is the same recipe passed from her as well...and that her "English name" was Sarah...and that her Cherokee name was lost with the passage of time....

I love butterscotch pie.

Have you ever tried to find butterscotch pie around town? No one makes it. Hardly anyone has ever heard of it. Butterscotch pie was the most important pie during the holiday...trumping the more standard pumpkin, sweet potatoe, or pecan...

My mother would always get mad at my grandmother for indulging me with a slice still warm from the oven (because it hadn't "set" properly and the filling would run...supposedly ruining the pie...Yes, I was a little spoiled...and yes, I cut that first piece for myself sometimes, while it is hot...and watch the filling run into the empty space...not because I'm spoiling myself, but to remember my mother's voice...and that of my grandmother's...

I don't know if it all matters or not, but for right now, for me, having recently left the fog of my other fictional world, it seems I should be doing something to keep established family traditions rooted in the minds of my daughters, while keeping the rituals we've created together in place as well...

To all of you, who have read to the bottom of this post, I wish you Happy Holidays...

And I'll share the Butterscotch Pie recipe here...I rarely bake but this is one recipe that I do well...and it makes a generous amount of filling (for a large deep pie shell or enough for a small pie and several cups of pudding):

Butterscotch Pie

Make your pie crust first and bake it so that it is ready to fill as soon as the butterscotch filling is ready. Here's the basic ingredients for the crust:

• 2 cp flour
• 1 tsp salt
• 2/3 cp shortening

Here's the important part: Sift together the flour and salt...no one sifts anymore...cut in the shortening with a knife or pastry cutter, you can also mash it together with a fork until it resembles grains, add just enough ICE-COLD water to bind it together (2 tbl but no more than 1/3 cup...just sprinkle as you knead until it just barely holds together)...refrigerate dough for one hour...

Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Sprinkle flour on flat surface and roll out the pastry. Press into place in prepared pan, trim edges, pinch to "decorate". Prick crust with fork. Line shell with parchment paper and fill with rice to keep shell from forming bubble. (Rice is not damaged and can be reused.) Bake for 12 minutes. Remove rice and paper...bake empty shell an additional 6 minutes or until light golden brown. Cool on wire rack.

Now you are ready for the filling:

Preheat oven to 425 degrees. Combine following seven ingredients in a heavy bottomed pan or a double boiler. Cook over a medium heat, stirring (I use a wooden spoon) until thick. (It will take awhile, don't get anxious and turn up the heat...and when you think it is thickening, don't get into too big of a hurry, let it get as thick as a rich pudding)

• 1 1/2 cp light brown sugar
• 10 tbs flour
• 1 tsp salt
• 4 cps milk
• 6 beaten egg yolks (set aside the whites for meringue, keep refrigerated)
• 4 tbs butter
• 2 tsp real vanilla

Pour filling into pie crust. While the filling is still very hot it is time to make the meringue...do not fear meringue...trust me, this is the easy part!

• 6 egg whites
• 6 tbs sugar
• 2 tbs powdered sugar
• pinch salt
• 2 tsp vanilla

Beat the egg whites until stiff, then add sugars, salt and vanilla, beating well...peaks should form. Spread the meringue over the filling, starting at the crust edges (slightly overlapping the crust) and fill toward the center, mounding slightly higher in the center. Bake for 5-7 minutes or until meringue is light golden brown.

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One sex accouterment that I have yet to add to my collection, but that I think is fairly crucial, is a good quality, comfortable, and padded blindfold. I mean, there are many blindfolds that exist, and yes, you could use just any kind of cloth or tie...but we all know that I love my sex toys, and besides, this blindfold is RED AND BLACK. I mean, come on! It matches all of my sex toys, much of my outfits, my decor, and at times, even my hair. You can get any better than that.

It showed up in a tube like container, which was great to store it while it was waiting to be used. An added bonus is that I can re-use the container to store things. I appreciate useful, re-useable packaging, rather than overpackaged, cheap disposable boxes.

One night, I took it out while F was over at my place, and gently placed it over her head. It wasn't really a sex type of night (I know, hard to believe), but I figured I'd at least introduce the two of them. F, here is my new and sexy blindfold. New and sexy blindfold, please meet the sexy and hot F. That accomplished, I laughed a little as she wore it in a headband style...tres chic. After a good laugh, I helped her to slip it over her eyes. She had me adjust it a few times, but said that although it was comfortable, she could see underneath it a little. Taking it off, we left it for the evening.

A few days letter, I was begging for her to fuck me with the Spareparts Harness and the Buzz 1. As she was getting all strapped on, I was playing around in the kitchen (isn't that where everyone keeps their sex toys and porn to be reviewed?), and slipped the blindfold onto my head...instantly, I decided that this was a brilliant decision...and kept wearing it, as I stumble blindly towards the bedroom. I didn't have the same issue as F - once I adjusted it properly, I couldn't see ANYTHING...and it was still super comfy.

F helped me into the bedroom, and put me on my back. She laughed as she told me that I had to find the lube -- good thing we were at my place, so I knew how to find it relatively quickly. She lubed up, and started to fuck me...it was so intense, and hot, not to be able to see what she was doing to me. God, it was amazing. I had her flip me over, and fuck me from behind, and again, amazing. After coming a few times, I collapsed with her on top of me, taking a few minutes before I was able to tiredly peel the blindfold off my face.

Basically, this is a pretty good quality, very attractive and super comfy blindfold...and that best part? It's under 20 bucks, so is incredibly affordable for you and you partner(s). I'd give this to any of my friends looking for a good blindfold...especially if they like the red and black color scheme. Don't you want a sexy blindfold?

-Essin' Em

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