Believe it or not women can and do ejaculate...and women who honestly believe that they can't-can be taught how. Personally, I was once one of the latter. I thought women were peeing not ejaculating...and then...(I bet you've already guessed)...someone proved me wrong by causing me to ejaculate.
And honestly, how embarrassing to the doubter to be not only proven wrong but left laying in a puddle blushing head to toe.
So, how can you tell if you've ejaculated? The obvious sign is a gush of wetness just before or during orgasm. Some women actually produce a spray or stream...
It is my belief (now that I am a female ejaculation convert) that all women can ejaculate...
It merely takes patience, practice, and a willingness to learn. So partner up and let's get started (although for the very shy a solo run is very possible.) First comes exploration of the G-spot.
The g-spot is the spongy tissue of the paraurethral gland, which is similar to the male prostate. It is located about one to two inches back from the vaginal opening inside the front vaginal wall. (The same side as your belly button.)
You can explore your g-spot with your fingers or a curved dildo. I find it easier the first time to go with fingers because feeling the difference in texture in the vaginal wall is important. The area directly over the g-spot will feel bumpy or rough compared to the smoother surrounding area. Remember, smooth fingernails and lube are important...
And really, this step by step approach is going to read kind of dry, so remember...kissing, cuddling, massaging, teasing are all assumed as foreplay before you dive in...the g-spot is much easier to find when you (or your partner) are highly aroused...*wink*
Slowly insert one or two fingers into your vagina and make a "come hither" motion stroking the front wall of the vagina. Sometimes it helps to apply pressure from the outside with your free hand. Press down in the area just above your pelvic bone while simultaneously stroking the g-spot until you are feel like you are going to pee. (Don't stop because you are getting close!) As you near orgasm, push a little and the stream of liquid that flows out is ejaculate.
Face your partner while she is lying on her back and insert your index or long middle finger into her vagina about two inches. Then crook your fingers in a "come hither" motion, sliding your fingertip along the top of the vagina until you find an area that is rougher than the rest of that vaginal wall. If you don't get an immediate response, don't panic, sometimes direct pressure from the outside is needed to find the g-spot successful...and...every woman is different. Some women need soft touches, others harder touches, that's where practice come in.
The amount of liquid expelled during female ejaculation can vary from a teaspoon to a cup...and on bed sheets...that's a lot of liquid. So have towels ready. Try to not be too disappointed if on first try there is little volume...the secret is to stroke the g-spot to "plump it up" and as you do create more fluid. Again. Practice makes perfect.
If you Google G-spot or Female Ejaculation...you will get a myriad of results. What you will not find are what comes from experience...
All of that play and exploration leads to over-sensitivity and it is not uncommon to feel "uncomfortable" the next day...especially if ejaculation isn't achieved...because the fluid build up will be in that spongy area. Before I actually "learned" how to ejaculate, I thought I had a constant UTI from too vigorous play. Once I figured out that liquid build-up was the cause measures could be taken to not feel so tender and swollen. Now that I am an experienced ejaculator, if I feel that there is excess fluid it can be "milked out" with that same "come hither" motion, but usually I'll just take a couple aspirin or Motrin after extended g-spot play.
Also, if you do experience frequent UTI's make it a habit to urinate immediately after any play that involves lube and/or g-spot play.
Now it's your turn, tell me your ejaculation stories...triumphs, failures, most embarressing moments...tricks to make it easier for a first timer...