Believe it or not women can and do ejaculate...and women who honestly believe that they can't-can be taught how. Personally, I was once one of the latter. I thought women were peeing not ejaculating...and then...(I bet you've already guessed)...someone proved me wrong by causing me to ejaculate.
And honestly, how embarrassing to the doubter to be not only proven wrong but left laying in a puddle blushing head to toe.
So, how can you tell if you've ejaculated? The obvious sign is a gush of wetness just before or during orgasm. Some women actually produce a spray or stream...
It is my belief (now that I am a female ejaculation convert) that all women can ejaculate...
It merely takes patience, practice, and a willingness to learn. So partner up and let's get started (although for the very shy a solo run is very possible.) First comes exploration of the G-spot.
The g-spot is the spongy tissue of the paraurethral gland, which is similar to the male prostate. It is located about one to two inches back from the vaginal opening inside the front vaginal wall. (The same side as your belly button.)
You can explore your g-spot with your fingers or a curved dildo. I find it easier the first time to go with fingers because feeling the difference in texture in the vaginal wall is important. The area directly over the g-spot will feel bumpy or rough compared to the smoother surrounding area. Remember, smooth fingernails and lube are important...
And really, this step by step approach is going to read kind of dry, so remember...kissing, cuddling, massaging, teasing are all assumed as foreplay before you dive in...the g-spot is much easier to find when you (or your partner) are highly aroused...*wink*
Solo Practice:
Slowly insert one or two fingers into your vagina and make a "come hither" motion stroking the front wall of the vagina. Sometimes it helps to apply pressure from the outside with your free hand. Press down in the area just above your pelvic bone while simultaneously stroking the g-spot until you are feel like you are going to pee. (Don't stop because you are getting close!) As you near orgasm, push a little and the stream of liquid that flows out is ejaculate.
Partner Play:
Face your partner while she is lying on her back and insert your index or long middle finger into her vagina about two inches. Then crook your fingers in a "come hither" motion, sliding your fingertip along the top of the vagina until you find an area that is rougher than the rest of that vaginal wall. If you don't get an immediate response, don't panic, sometimes direct pressure from the outside is needed to find the g-spot successful...and...every woman is different. Some women need soft touches, others harder touches, that's where practice come in.
Be prepared:
The amount of liquid expelled during female ejaculation can vary from a teaspoon to a cup...and on bed sheets...that's a lot of liquid. So have towels ready. Try to not be too disappointed if on first try there is little volume...the secret is to stroke the g-spot to "plump it up" and as you do create more fluid. Again. Practice makes perfect.
If you Google G-spot or Female Ejaculation...you will get a myriad of results. What you will not find are what comes from experience...
All of that play and exploration leads to over-sensitivity and it is not uncommon to feel "uncomfortable" the next day...especially if ejaculation isn't achieved...because the fluid build up will be in that spongy area. Before I actually "learned" how to ejaculate, I thought I had a constant UTI from too vigorous play. Once I figured out that liquid build-up was the cause measures could be taken to not feel so tender and swollen. Now that I am an experienced ejaculator, if I feel that there is excess fluid it can be "milked out" with that same "come hither" motion, but usually I'll just take a couple aspirin or Motrin after extended g-spot play.
Also, if you do experience frequent UTI's make it a habit to urinate immediately after any play that involves lube and/or g-spot play.
Now it's your turn, tell me your ejaculation stories...triumphs, failures, most embarressing moments...tricks to make it easier for a first timer...
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Years ago I discovered that after some play I "gushed". In the olden days, the very idea that females did anything other than lay there and think of England, ;~D was unheard of. I thought I was weird! But it felt (and feels) soooo good!
nice posting!
[...] Harte wrote a really interesting post on the Femmes Guide called “How-To Guide For Female Ejaculation” that is worth reading for all of you who are seeking out the squirting experience. [...]
Ok so - for those of us who have NOT ever felt that uncomfortable build-up....why try to ejaculate? Does the act of going so heighten the orgasm?
Thank you for posting this! (and a hundred other things LOL) I just started following blogs (yeah - i know.... 'bout time huh?) - and yours is one of them!
Ever since I started using vibrators etc (in my teens) I noticed that sometimes I would get to the point where it felt like I had to pee - so (of course) I'd stop. LOL And that's pretty much how it was until....
Years later (two years ago) I was with a male partner who had a different style of sex than I was used to (he's do it piston like - very erect - very fast) and I found that I was leaving little puddles everywhere. At first I was embarassed because he responded negatively to it. But then, after to talking to a fw of my female friends, I learned that I might be ejaculating. Hmmmm... interesting concept.... LOL
Then, oh then..... *grin* I met my present partner. One night we decided to have a little fun in the basement whilst doing 'laundry'. Well, he was fingering me in front of the washing machine (we were both standing) and suddenly I was gushing! I soaked his hand, my thighs, and the floor!! I was pretty damned shocked lemme tell ya ... LOL
His response was, "Holy FUCK that's hot".
Hmmmm.... interesting response. LOL!
Anywho - my best advice would be this:
1. Be comfortable with yourself and your body.
2. Be comfortable with the person you are with.
3. Be comfortable with the thought of making a mess.
4. RELAX - breath.... FEEEEEEL what's happening to you.
5. Kinda 'bear down' when you feel the pressure building... and don't be afraid to let it go!
If it helps to ease your mind, go pee before you start (I still make one hellova mess when I do this lol)
Also, for me personally, I've found that standing or kneeling works best for squirting. (Perhaps gravity helps bring my g-spot into the right position? meh.. who knows)
Anywho... Have a blast with it. It's a WHOLE new world.....
MWAH!!
slf
I'm kind of like Jeanne. I had no idea we could do such a thing. I was alone the first time it happened to me :blush: Oddly enough I don't know if the G-spot has ever even been found. I'm not sensitive to it, not consciously.
Glad you stopped by, Jeanne...and thank goddess those horrid "olden days" are a thing of the past...
As a fellow female ejaculator...
Thank you for posting this! I really don't think there is enough accurate information on the topic available. Google will take you to porn (where it is assumed it is fake) or questionable sites that debate urine vs. fluid while giving no definitive answers.
So to you Miss Roxy, I say Bravo!
Hi SLF...first...thanks for following the blog;)
And yessss....I loved your comment!! Washing machine huh? I love the combination of routine household chores becoming grounds for a sexual encounter...so HOT!
Hugs
Roxy
Hmmm.....Lilly...who asked does (FE) heighten the orgasm...?
For me, I orgasm stronger when I combine clitoral and g-spot (FE) orgasms...but I've had g-spot orgasms both with FE and without FE and honestly it does seem more intense. But it could be just the emotional reaction to "soaking" someone else. I mean it's embarrassing, it's exciting...it's always a very visual orgasm.
Also, I think it depends on the partners reaction too...men who like it will do anything to get it to happen again and again and again...which can lead to some pretty mind blowing orgasms. At least I think that every successive one is a little more intense with...
I've also talked to women who hate the whole experience and say they would much rather have just a "nice, quiet orgasm"...
So, I guess my answer is *Shrug*...
Hugs
Roxy
[...] wetness behind from your own ejaculation (squirting). Again, this is awesome during sex, in fact women are striving to achieve this, but when it comes to dealing with the mess, it’s the last thing I want to do - I just want [...]
[...] of wetness behind from your own ejaculation (squirting). Again, this is awesome during sex, in fact women are striving to achieve this, but when it comes to dealing with the mess, it’s the last thing I want to do - I just want [...]
Yay for all squirters, and a helpful welcome pack (and towel set) to those who should discover how to. I find the longer a build up of other mental and physical pleasures adds to the likelihood, and once you've had one or two, they come so much easier. All females can have these, we just need the opportunity and attention to bring them on, and the lack of fear of having them. Yesterday I had the obscene pleasure of having my wrists tied together and set around my vagina, so whilst I was spanked, I squirted all over my own hands - which was so hot it made me squirt even more!!! Mentally delightful.